Detransitioners: The Outcasts We Ignore at Our Own Peril
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rC7EtIeWrPs
Have you seen the detransitioning videos on YouTube? More and more young women are coming forth each day sharing their stories. My heart breaks for them.
Take, for instance, 22-year-old Ryan (last name unknown). She shares her story here. Ryan never experienced gender dysphoria growing up. In young adulthood, like so many people, she went through a phase of questioning her sexual orientation and struggling to sort out her relationships. These are totally normal parts of growing up. But you know what has never in all of human history been a totally normal part of growing up? Permanently altering your vocal cords in the process of trying to figure it out.
Ryan eventually realized that she identifies as asexual and aromantic. That’s got to be a tough thing to discover; it’s quite uncommon, and we hardly see it represented anywhere. But what Ryan went through in order to come to this realization should horrify all of us.
Like so many young people, she was lonely, isolated, struggled with relationships, and spent a lot of time on the internet. In the process of seeking guidance about her problems, she went down one of the internet’s many available rabbit holes about gender dysphoria. What she gathered from other people’s experiences and ideologies seemed to promise a way out of her pain and confusion: she must be transgender. Within a very short period of time, she scheduled an appointment at Planned Parenthood, and walked away with testosterone that very same day.
Ryan never sought therapy, and no medical professional insisted that she should. She never talked to anyone who was actually qualified to help with the issues she was facing. No caring, attentive, and informed adult ever helped her parse through what all was going on.
Could ADHD explain the impulsivity and distractibility she reveals and alludes to several times in this video? If so, would diagnosing and treating it have helped her manage her emotions, think clearly, and make better long-term decisions?
Could trauma, abuse, neglect, or bullying have anything to do with her being so “antisocial,” as she describes herself? If so, would working through those experiences in therapy and finding new friends help resolve her depression?
Could family conflict be pushing her into a cave of isolated rebellion? Did she need help processing her feelings toward other people?
Did the gender roles or relationship dynamics she saw portrayed growing up influence her discomfort discovering what she might want for herself? Might the influence of pornography on teen boys’ treatment of girls have made her feel unsafe to discover any feelings she might have had toward boys? Conversely, might internalized homophobia or the decline of lesbianism among teens — a byproduct of the surge of transgenderism in girls who would have discovered they were lesbian in previous generations — hindered her ability to access feelings toward girls? And if she is truly asexual and aromantic — rare, but real orientations — would it have been helpful to talk to someone about that?
Ryan needed help, but instead she was neglected. The medical community failed Ryan in the name of “gender affirming care.” Which is fucking absurd. Because nobody helped Ryan even begin to identify her gender, what to speak of affirming it.
Look, anyone can spend all day on WebMD and then tell his doctor he thinks he has cancer, but that doesn’t mean she’s going to prescribe him chemotherapy. The doctor’s job is to to evaluate his symptoms, identify their likely origins, and inform the patient of his prognosis and treatment options. If she were to automatically “affirm” the patient’s self-diagnosis and proceed to give him the “treatment” he believed he needed, that would be malpractice: grossly negligent, harmful to the patient, and a waste of medical resources. Yet that is exactly what doctors are doing when it comes to gender issues: accepting patients’ self-diagnoses at face value without any further investigation, and proceeding to prescribe medical procedures that permanently alter young people’s physiology.
The woke mob would call me a transphobic gatekeeper for saying all of this. To which I would reply, back off, you pretentious, self-righteous, virtue-signaling, hypocritical bullies. How dare you exploit the actual, lifelong struggles of real trans people who just want to live normal lives, as if they are your poster children to do with as you please? How dare you take advantage of the vulnerability of confused, hurting teenagers to champion your imaginary cause? How dare you insist on the widespread, abusive misapplication of novel, life-altering medical procedures and attempt to obscure information about their real health consequences? How dare you step so far beyond your own scope of practice, whatever that might be, and attempt to control the work of medical and mental health professionals with far more training and experience than you? Get a life.
There is nothing transphobic about examining social and psychological issues carefully. Anyone who has contributed to the experiences of people like Ryan by misrepresenting testosterone as a harmless panacea for all remotely relational psychological woes should be ashamed of themselves.
It doesn't take a genius to see where this is heading. In a few years, so many girls will have gone through experiences such as Ryan's that we will begin to see class action malpractice lawsuits and other understandable forms of backlash. We can only hope that when this happens, the pendulum doesn't swing the opposite way, like transsexual YouTuber Blaire White expresses her concerns about in this video.
Woke mob, it’s time for you to stand down.
